Sanibonani, I hope this message finds you well.
Our society has always promoted the idea and expectation that to be a man, means that you must be a provider, you always have a wish/responsibility to feed your family, you feel the need to take care of them. But what kind of despair can result when a man feels they have failed to do so, you feel worthless and not good enough. You end up being afraid and even embarrassed to return home empty handed. You always wonder where your internalized message of “I am not good enough” comes from. You try hard but still cannot give yourself credit. You’re always beating yourself up and thinking somehow you should be more, be better and you just don’t measure up in your own mind. This fate has unfortunately been suffered by women too, under heavy pressure of whom and what she should be as a woman. Failure to conform results in her being called less than, a home wrecker etc. Heavy pressure advice has the potential to do significant damage, whereas love and guidance solves not only immediate issues, but also to prevent future ones. You need that love and guidance to make sure that you able to pass it on to your own children. In fact all of us need to recognize that segmenting ourselves and the attached expectations does little to build our society. It is all our duty to build loving self-efficient families that will result in healthy communities.
We need to stop pointing fingers because we will lose our loved ones forever because they are afraid to face us when they have fallen short of our expectations
Hope you have a great week ahead.
47 responses to “Pressures of Society”
Ndiyayibulela ubakhona kwale show ka Khumbul’ekhaya,nam ndisenethemba loba singamfumana tamkhulu wethu malume ka mama wam owalahlekayo ngo 1986 ukutsho kwabo,kodwa nge themba
Thnk u for de nyc massage it realy gv us de strength 2 look forward.
Iqiniso lelo sisi. Family medicine is a medical specialty to comprehensive health care for people of all ages
These words are encouraging, building and supportive. God bless!
Tanx. Andile that true we need to stop pointing fingers and start tinking things that will help us to achieve more in life
Iqiniso lelo. Family medicine is a medical specialty devoted to comprehensive health care for people of all ages
Thanxx cc Andile I really like ur show.
Strong words as always Sisi.thanks.
I do believe that love is the only thing that keep us alive
I could not agree more with those heart warming sentiments. I was really touched by yesterday’s story. I do feel that even though it might seem that ubaba had lost his dignity, he actually regained it by taking that big leaping step of deciding to go back home. Since charity begins at home, i hope and believe that ubaba will gain the blessings that emanate from home after he had been away for that long.
Thanks again to Khumbulekhaya for yet another inspirational story.
Many thanks to Andile and her team for a very good show. You’ve made so may families happy. It’s not easy to look for a lost loved one but your show has made it so much easier. Love your show. Be Blessed
Thanx cc Andile I really love ur show its inspiring me a lot n give us hope
That’s so very true indeed. Thanks for the message and a good show. Keep it up.
Ngithanda ukubabongela kakhulu labo abagcina bezitholile izihlobo zabo unfortunately Mina angizange ubhutwami ngimthole ongu nkosnathi Zwezwe kodwa angililahli ïthemba
Thanks for the wise words as always Andile. It is unfortunately that our society things like that and its up to us to change it.
Khumbul’ ekhaya is the best. I love the show.
NYC message keep up the good work
May god bless you cc andile an ur team,keep up the gud work.
Inamandla Andile ngyathemba nalaba ababesaba ukubuyela ekhaya ngeke besasaba emva kokubona indaba kababa.syabonga cc
Excellent show Andile. Keep it up. I wish there was a Zim version of your show where millions have been lost and separated by the political situation. Siyabonga.
Sisi wam thanks for the encourageous and supportive words.You are an inspiration to all of us,keep it up and God bless you.
Khumbuleya helps a lot by reuniting relatives who saw each other long time
Ubaba wami wazala umuntwana nomnye umama ayethandana naye . Ubaba usaphila kodwa afuni ukukhuluma ngalendaba. Ngazama wangithukuthelela unyaka wonke. Untwana lo akamthola kulomama owentomabazana ngo 1968 egeorge koGO bayamba bayabuyela efree state. Igama Lakhe Untombi umama wakhe kwakumakhumalo. Ngiyafisa ukumthola. Angazi ukuthi ngingenzani.
Ndifunisa ngomzala wam uNomathamsanqa Mtshini,wahamba ngo1986 ehamba nebrother katata wakhe uZolile Mtshini kunye newakwakhe uNoprivate Nkasa,ekuhambeni kwexesha wasithumelela incwadi esithi useDurban eshepstone ecela izihlangu zeskolo,utata wakhe ukhona uyamdinga no Meyi Mtshini lo wayehlala kuye naye ongubrother katakhe apho umama wakhe wazombeka khona ngenxeni yoxakela,mhlambi naye uyasidinga apho akhoyo ngoba wamnka eneminyaka emihlanu apha ekhaya,sisekomga eEastern ngokuhlala,sasihlala eKing williams town ethembeni ukumnka kwakhe
Hi sisi ngingu makoti wakwa Modewane indodana kaLucas Modewane nguTwoboy Modewane.ngibenezingane ezine kodwa manje sihlangabezana ninkinga eziningi nezingaphezu kwamandla ethu masifunisisa kwabaziyo bathi umyeni wami makafune ubaba wakhe ngiyacela kukhumbulekhaya ngisizeni ngokushesha angithi okwami kuhlukile kwabanye,yingo singize ngashonelwa ngumttwana ngezi 03-08-2015.kunokuba ngiduduzeke umdeni anawomanje umyeni wami usushintshile emva kokungcwaba ingane yethu,akusenakuzwana.ubaba Lucas Mode wane ngokuzalwa kuthiwa ngowase Botswana futhi unendodana esebenza emapoyiseni igamalayo Israel Modewane,ubaba yena bekasebenza emiddliburg kwa Isaac furniture store,futhi nakhona enizingane amagama azo kunguMatiti no Ezekiel. Umyeni wami uth wangcina ukubona ubaba wakhe NGO 1992 emvakasheli.ubaba ubelethwa ngunaMAbunda
My name is lucky mxolisi mnisi child of dan jabulani mnisi(father) and nomsa ndlovu(mother).i need khumbulekhaya to reunite with my mother who left me when i was 3 months old in 1991 with my father at bushbuckridge.
Igama nginguLihle Mbhele(Nkosi) ngizalwa uVelile Alois Mbhele(nkosi)ngicela ukufuniswa ubaba omncane wami uMakhwezi Mbhele owahamba ekhaya eyosebenza eCape Town washiya ugogo ekhaya eMzinto ehluthankungu waba umuntu obuyela emsebenz-ni akaphindanga wabuya wayesitshele ukuty ugada izimoto zemali okubuhlungu ugogo okungumawakhe usashona ubaba okungubhuti wakhe naye akasekho siyacela khumbulekhaya nisifunise uthunjana wakwababa siyamdinga ekhaya noma ngabe uphila mpiloni sicela abuyele ekhaya
Khumbulekhay is the best
ccAndile and team please keep up the good work.
CcAndile And The Team I Really Love Your Show @SABC1 You Doing Good Things By Healing The Hearts Of Those Who Suffered For Years Missing Their Love Ones Who Been Gone For So Long And You Reuniting Families. I’d Be Really Glad If You Help Me Look For My Father (Gcobani Madokwe) From Mtata Engcobo He Left My Mother(Liseto Lepheana) In1993 Matatiele I Wish I Could Meet Him So He Could Introduce Me To My Biological Uncestors It Is Really Heard As A Man Growing Up Without Knowing Your Father. I’m Tsoarelo Lepheana(1992
Did u get to find ur father?
hi ngicela ongangisiza la ngihluleka ukuvula ama show la kumele ngiyekuphi if ngifuna ukubukela ama show asendlul cz ayavela bt if ngi pressa u WATCH THE SHOW akuveli lutho kuvel izithombe zawo kuphela PLZ HELP ngifuna ukuwabuka #NONTOBEKO
Hi cc andile igama lami ngingu phindile nene ozalwa nguNomathemba mirriam nene sis nginesifiso sokumazi u baba wami ongizalayo igama lakhe ekungu sphiwe (endrew) mhlanga ubekade ehlala egoli (germiston)spruit elokishini ekuthiwa isemavimbela ngingajabula uma ngimamuthola ngoba alipheli i langa ngingamucabanga nginanovalo lokhuthi uma unkulunkulu engamukhumbula umama ngiyosala ngiyini kulomhlaba ngokukhulu ukuzithoba ngingalujabulela usizolwenu niyikhumbula ekhaya
Sawubona cc Andile ngithi nje asilubonge wena nokhumbulekhaya wasilethelwa inkosi,uhlanganisa abantu naemindeni yabo kuhle impela lokhu enikwenzayo ngathi inkosi ingaba nani niqhubekele phambili nohlelo lwenu baningi kakhulu abantu abasalundindga usizo lwenu.syabonga kakhulu
Sawubona cc Andile igama uSbusiso Ngcobo ngfisa ukufuniswa ubaba wami uPenuel Ngcobo engagcina ukubonana naye eGermiston baba ngcela uze ekhaya khona okuphuthumayo okudinga wena umndeni wakho uyakudinga ngyacela bandla cc andile ungsize ngba ifoni yakhe ayisangeni asisazi sizomthola kanjani eyami inumber 0760675865 plzz bafe2 noke
Hi ? andile u rock and unit many friends and family ?.I’m one of those who is looking for a loved one her name is lda zonini Mogapi she was last seen in 1971 I’m the last born of the family she does not know me ill be happy ? to meet her.love you ? sis.0607571808
sawubona cc Andile.ngicela ukufuniswa uNcinci Mntambo okusolakala ukuth useStanger,wahamba nezingane zamantombazane FIkile noStonti.
hi cc andile, ngicela ukufuniswa ubhuti wami engingakaze ngimbone, igama lakhe u sphamandla mkhize ozalwa ngu nonhlanhla mkhize wase Mpendle endaweni yase Gomane. u sphamandla wazalwa ngabo 1987 wahamba no mama wakhe eseneminyaka emibili besuka ekhaya e portshepstone bangaphinda babuya. ubaba wethu ngu milton ndo chiliza wase portshepstone endaweni yase bhobhoyi. ngicela ningisize ngobhutwami ukuphela kwakhe yithi sobabili kuphela kubaba njengoba engekho ngingedwa
Truely speaking khumbulekhaya really works and unite families and friends at the end is nation together thnx to sabc for not considering to cut out this significant programme what can we be without khumbulekhaya.
This show is the best ever cc Andile keep up the good work n to all those willing to re-unite with their loved ones HOPE is the key be in touch with khumbulekhaya all ur hopes will be fulfilled
Hie Andile ngicele ningifunise ubaba wami uSobantu Cawe owayehlala Soweto edobsenville ngo 1988 eduze nepolicestation mama uPhumelele Sikhakhane Magwaza ubaba wangipha igama elithi Nandipha.Ngiyamdinga kakhulu ubaba wami uthando lomzali angilazi ngoba umama wangilahla ngimncane ngakhula kanzima ngihlala emzini yabantu ngilala ngingadlile ngimncane ngino 8years ngangihlala emzini kunosuku engingasoze ngalukhohlwa lapho ngadlwengulwa (rape)umfanaa walapho ngangihlala khona ngabaleka ngayohlala ehlathini imvula inetha yazi nakuba namhlanje ngiyaphila I thank god and I believe kuthi one day ngiyomthola baba wami mabye le enger engaphakathi wami iyophela ngoba ngibhala nje tears are rolling on my eyes
Hie Andile ngicele ningifunise ubaba wami uSobantu Cawe owayehlala Soweto edobsenville ngo 1988 eduze nepolicestation mama uPhumelele Sikhakhane Magwaza ubaba wangipha igama elithi Nandipha.Ngiyamdinga kakhulu ubaba wami uthando lomzali angilazi ngoba umama wangilahla ngimncane ngakhula kanzima ngihlala emzini yabantu ngilala ngingadlile ngimncane ngino 8years ngangihlala emzini kunosuku engingasoze ngalukhohlwa lapho ngadlwengulwa (rape)umfanaa walapho ngangihlala khona ngabaleka ngayohlala ehlathini imvula inetha yazi nakuba namhlanje ngiyaphila I thank god and I believe kuthi one day ngiyomthola baba wami mabye le enger engaphakathi wami iyophela ngoba ngibhala nje tears are rolling on my eyes my namba is 0792792522
Onolwazi pleese help me?
(: thnks Andile love You…
Hy cc Andile ng’cela ningifunise ubaba wam Phiniyas Rhwati uhlala ePetersbug wang’shiya eSecunda nomama yena sekashonile 2001
Ng’cela umuthu omaziyo angiphonele kule no 0785735621 baba ngyakudinga kakhulu Phiniyas Rhwati angyazi ivelapi yam sengimdala maye
My name is Sonia im looking for myfather phineus Rhwati live in petersburg left me with mymother in Secunda